Ok, so lately I’ve been suffering from those days which are best described in today’s slang as ‘meh’ ( to give it a proper word would probably do it too much justice) yanno those days where you just feel a little lost, unproductive, lethargic, down, unfocused, uninspired, apathetic, uninterested etc and what makes it all worse is that there is no actual real major reason/problem for you to feel so negative. Yep so those days have been occurring more often than I would like, to the point where I’ve just sat myself down and give myself a good ol’ one to one, the ‘sort yourself out woman’ pep talk and since then I’ve been overcoming those days alhamdulillah.
I assume that since you are here you read the title and thought a) what on earth is a ‘Meh day’ or b) yes ‘Meh days’ so annoying, how do I fix it. well here are my 5 do’s and do not’s that have been very effective for me.
And I (Allah) created not the jinns and humans except they should worship Me (Alone). (Muhsin Khan)
This can really turn my day around. Invite good friends around, friends that will remind you of Allah and your purpose of life, good companionship is everything to set your affairs and raise your Eman bithinillah and also a great way to help get inspired too. A beautiful hadeeth of the prophet Mohammed (sal allahu alayhi wasalam) that explains the importance of good companionship is:
“The example of the good and evil companions is like a bearer of musk and a person blowing a pair of bellows. As for the musk bearer, he either gives you some, or you buy from him or at least you get a pleasant smell from him. As for the bellows blower he either gets your clothes burnt or you get an unpleasant smell from him.” (Al–Bukharee and Muslim)
Look Good to Feel Good.
It’s so easy to feel sorry for ourselves and start complaining about how “hard” things are and how crap you feel but trust me complaining does nothing but make you feel even worse than you already are. This is something that I always fall short on and I never feel good after it, why? Because it is not the way of our beloved prophet Mohammed SAWS nor the Salaf, when I read about their patience and how they withheld from complaining except when they complained to Allah, I feel like an idiot for complaining to those who have not the power or the mercy of Allah. Here are some narrations of the Salaf that Al-Dhahabi brings from his book Al-siyar.
Shaqiq al-Balkhee said, “Whoever complained of a calamity to other than Allaah, he will not find the sweetness of obedience” (9/315).
Hamdoon al-Qassaar said, “No one despairs from a calamity except one who suspects His Lord” (13/51).
Mugheerah said, “The eye of al-Ahnaf was lost, and al-Ahnaf said, ‘I lost it forty years ago and I have not complained to a single person’.” (4/92).
Al-Asma’ee said, “al-Fudayl saw a man complaining to another so he said, ‘O So and so! Are you complaining about the one who shows you mercy (Allaah) to one who does not show you mercy (man)’.” (8/439)
The fact of the matter is ‘meh days’ are ‘meh days’ because there is no real good reason for you to feel in such a negative way. So always remind yourself of the blessings bestowed upon you, keep your mind busy and inspired, eat good, feel good and it should immediately fix your priorities by the will of Allah. You won’t half feel stupid for the mood that you were in and evermore grateful that you were able to live productively for the day.